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Sharlene Poole - Ages and Stages with your baby in the 1st Year


A baby's development in the first year of their life is continuous and rapid! Just when you think you have got a grip on one stage they have a growth spurt/developmental change that can sometimes make you feel over-whelmed. The constant 'tweaks' and knowing what to do at these stages can be difficult.


Roughly every 3 weeks from birth your baby will go through what is commonly known as a 'growth spurt'. For some babies it is very noticeable and other babies, not so much. What I have found is that a lot of parents think that it is just about increasing the amount of times a baby feeds in a 24hr day but it is more than this, it is a developmental change too! 

Their ability to focus, notice and communicate with you becomes more apparent and with this we need to slowly and slightly adjust what we are doing in our 24hr day to accommodate these changes. 

I see a lot of families who have problems with settling a baby to sleep, most saying to me that their baby use to be great at settling and sleeping well but now they struggle and end up trying anything they can to get their baby to sleep, even if it means doing things that they never wanted to do, like feeding to sleep and so forth.
I find that if you are aware that every few weeks you need to 'tweak' their awake time and adjust their activities in accordance to their age and stage, a lot of other problems like settling may not occur. 

The Baby Whisperer's tips:

- When your baby has been settled, happy and sleeping well but over a few days starts to change, have a think about what you are doing in your 24hr day.
- Have you adjusted and slightly increased their time since they were born or have you slowly added new activities to your 'play time' that suit their developmental stages?
- Spend time being at home, to watch what your baby is doing, how they have changed. For example, when they are communicating with you more, have they started to talk to you with "arrh goo's"? Try spending 5-10 minutes just doing this with them when they grizzle. See if this distracts them from their grizzle instead of probably presuming they are tired.
- Learn a new way of settling your baby if they have found movement in the cot or if your old methods are no longer working - but adjust their time awake at the same time.
- Increase their playtime and time awake in small stages, 5-10min a day rather than 20-30mins at a time to avoid over-tiredness.
- Make sure the activities you do in a week are age appropriate and personality appropriate!

Where to go for further info:

Baby Whispering - Sharlene Poole

The Parenting Place
Greenlane Auckland

Sharlene Poole - Little Miracles

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