Depression, stress, anxiety and plain old frustration..... if you're feeling any of these symptoms.... you're not alone... you're not going mad.... it's entirely possible you're in the middle of a quarter-life crises.
Jock Matthews- psychologist:
It's a period of time in someone's life when they go through a difficult adjustment. Life changes that occur in late adolescence and early adulthood often present difficult challenges to people.
-Pretty nervous, 'cause i don't know what to expect later on
This isn't adolescent angst and it's not the mid life crisis. It's the period in between when you start asking questions like; Am I making the right decisions? what if I fail? and what do all these doubts mean?
Well there are a number of changes people experience in their relationships, in their career directions, in the foundation of their own sense of self and personality, as well as the expectations they put on themselves can cause difficult adjustment, both positive and negative.
-Relationship break-ups mainly, and I think going overseas put some pretty hairy situations into my life.
When someone's going through a difficult adjustment, often they will experience both psychological and physical changes, indicating that there going through stress.
Reports of people feeling so scared of messing up their future, they're actually paralysed from making decisions, is quite common. And how people deal with this fear can impact on the rest of their lives.
I'm feeling really scared at the moment, just thinking about it, take one step at a time, see where it takes me.
Dr. Rob Shieff psychiatrist
Well i think early adulthood is a real flash point for the significant mood disorders particularly depression and anxiety.
A study from the south Island shows that the most common mental health disorders are depression, anxiety disorders and substance abuse. 1 in every 3 young people feel the effects of 1 if not all these disorders, With anxiety at the top of the table.
Dr. Rob Schieff:
Anxiety becomes problematic when it is experienced for a long period of time or provoked by a situation that wouldn't normally provoke anxiety.
This is Josh. He understands what it feels like to be suffocated by choice and having to make decisions.
It's that feeling of inertia, that no matter how hard we try we're just gonna end up back in the same state. That doubt just eats away at you, 'what are you doing? Is it worthwhile? Should you be doing something else? … you're working for a living like dad did, you know. This is change. All of a sudden i'm an adult.
It can have not only a short-term effect, but long term profound effect on peoples life, not always negatively, i think the change period can be very positive.
so why isn't quarter=life crisis a well known phenomenon?
It's not a diagnosable condition. However it is something that effects a lot of people at various times in their lives.
Is it a crisis? Some people might view it this way, and that's what i've read about the mid-life crisis, some studies say it doesn't exist at all, but if it exists in your mind then it exists.
They may say crisis, i may say 'momentary lapse of indecision spread out over two or three years.
By definition.. a quarter-life crisis can't last forever.. and there are a number of things you can do to help ease its impact.
I think the first part of treatment is to develop a comprehensive understanding of the problems, how they originated, how they present themselves.
Seeking professional help or even just talking to a friend or counsilor is often a big help when trying to get your head around an issue.
Handles to grab on to can be hugely important in making sense of a situation.
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